"What do you first do when you learn to swim? You make mistakes, do you not? And what happens? You make other mistakes, and when you have made all the mistakes you possibly can without drowning - and some of them many times over - what do you find? That you can swim? Well - life is just the same as learning to swim! Do not be afraid of making mistakes, for there is no other way of learning how to live!" by Alfred Adler, Austrian Physician and Psychiatrist and the founder of Individual Psychology
MY DECLARATION OF SELF-ESTEEM
by Virginia Satir
I AM ME ... In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me.
Everything that comes out of me is authentically me.
Because I alone chose it – I own everything about me.
My body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
whether they be to others or to myself. I own my fantasies,
my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own all my triumphs and
successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of
me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing
I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. I know
there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other
aspects that I do not know, but as long as I am
friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously
and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles,
and for ways to find out more about me. However I
look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever
I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically
me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought
and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is
unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that
which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do.
I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be
productive to make sense and order out of the world of
people and things outside of me. I own me, and
therefore I can engineer me. I am me and ... I AM OKAY
AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS
by Portia Nelson
I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk I fall in. I am lost ... I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes me forever to find a way out.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I am in the same place. But, it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in ... it's a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.
I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.
I walk down another street.